Lovers or Friends???

I know the best relationships start off  in friendship. And I know this is an essential key for a Great relationship. But what if the friendship has lasted more than half your life?  You value it so much that you’re a little apprehensive to take it to the next level…so much to lose, yet so much to gain.

Here’s my take on this, you both have to be honest with each other. If you really love this person and want to be more than friends, there must be open communication to make this transition smooth, not bumpy/messy. Sometimes if your feelings are so strong for this person and you don’t express them appropriately, a situation may trigger  them to be expressed in a destructive manner.

I believe relationships that start like this are Beautiful. You already know each other, love, care and respect each other, because if you didn’t you wouldn’t have been friends for the time that you have. Don’t force it, just let it flow. And don’t fear the unknown, because if you think about it, there are less unknowns with this person, than someone you meet off the street. Enjoy getting to know your friend on a whole new level. Relax, there will always be “What if’s”!!

“Thumbs up” to relationships/love that last a lifetime…Yay!! Lol!! I believe it will be worth it! Life is too short to have, Would’ve, Could’ve, Should’ves.

Tell me your opinion on this subject!!

Until the next time stay, “Beautiful, Sassy, and Sophisticated!!”

Shemmyla Green aka Ms. Sophisticated



  1. LOL, this is funny. I know from first hand experience what this means. The most important point about going from friend to lover is assuming you know everything about your friend already. But, the truth of the matter is, you dont! So if there are things that you find out later that you cant deal with, it may cause problems. The friendship is more valuable.

    Rohaun – Artist/Designer
    I>M Art Series, July 22 @ Aurum Lounge ATL

    • I think this applies to any relationship. As you go to another level in a relationship, there will always be new things you will uncover about one another, you shouldn’t assume that you know everything. That’s unrealistic! But it’s a matter of whether you can deal with it or not…is it worth it to you? If it is, work on it! if not, don’t! ALL relationship require work. But I still believe Great relationships start off in friendship (or at least should). I guess it depends on the two individuals involved. I’ve seen both Great and not so Great outcomes.

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